When I learned I couldn't have kids, I didn't mind sharing it with people. It didn't bother me I couldn't have kids. There were so many options, and being childless is not the end of the world.
I stopped telling people though. Many felt sorry for me. I didn't want that. Others tried to give advice. They were well intentioned, so I didn't mind. But I really stopped for one reason:
"You know the cure for infertility......adopt. As soon as you adopt, bam, you'll get pregnant. It's because you'll no longer be stressed about having a baby. You can just relax and let it happen."
THWAP!
That's me, smacking the person for telling me that. I am NOT infertile because I am stressed. I'm stressed because you keep making insensitive comments. Go away! (Not you, my reader)
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Yes, that is annoying. Heard it and still do. We did 6 IUIs, 5 fresh IVFs, 1 FET. I wholeheartedly agree that adoption does not cure infertility. It does cure something though....empty arms. For us, it stopped being about pregnancy and it became about wanting to be parents.
ReplyDeleteI wish you all the best in your journey and hope your dream comes true very soon.